Saturday, March 12, 2011

10 principles for Peace of Mind

Guest Article by - Paritala Gopi Krishna
1. Do Not Interfere In Others' Business Unless Asked. Most of us create our own problems by interfering too often in others' affairs. We do so because somehow we have convinced ourselves that our way is the best way, our logic is the perfect logic and those who do not conform to our thinking must be criticized and steered to the right direction, our direction. This thinking denies the existence of individuality and consequently the existence of God.. God has created each one of us in a unique way. No two human beings can think or act in exactly the same way. All men or women act the way they do because God within them prompts them that way. Mind your own business and you will keep your peace.

2. Forgive And Forget: This is the most powerful aid to peace of mind. We often develop ill feelings inside our heart for the person who insults us or harms us. We nurture grievances. This in turn results in loss of sleep, development of stomach ulcers, and high blood pressure. This insult or injury was done once, but nourishing of grievance goes on forever by constantly remembering it. Get over this bad habit. Life is too short to waste in such trifles. Forgive, Forget, and march on. 
 Love flourishes in giving and forgiving.

3. Do Not Crave For Recognition: This world is full of selfish people. They seldom praise anybody without selfish motives. They may praise you today because you are in power, but no sooner than you are powerless, they will forget your achievement and will start finding faults in you. Why do you wish to kill yours lf in striving for their recognition? Their recognition is not worth the aggravation. 
 Do your duties ethically and sincerely.

4. Do Not Be Jealous: We all have experienced how jealousy can disturb our peace of mind. You know that you work harder than your colleagues in the office, but sometimes they get promotions; you do not. You started a business several years ago, but you are not as successful as your neighbor whose business is only one year old. There are several examples like these in everyday life. Should you be jealous? No. Remember everybody's life is shaped by his/her destiny which has now become his/her reality. If you are destined to be rich, nothing in the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can help you either. Nothing will be gained by blaming others for your misfortune.
 Jealousy will not get you anywhere; it will only take away your peace of mind.

5. Change Yourself According To The Environment: If you try to change the environment single-handedly, the chances are you will fail. Instead, change yourself to suit your environment. As you do this, even the environment, which has been unfriendly to you, will mysteriously change and seem congenial and harmonious.

 6. Endure What Cannot Be Cured: This is the best way to turn a disadvantage into an advantage. Every day we face numerous inconveniences, ailments, irritations, and accidents that are beyond our control... If we cannot control them or change them, we must learn to put up with these things. We must learn to endure them cheerfully. 
 Believe in yourself and you will gain in terms of patience, inner strength and will power.

7. Do Not Bite Off More Than You Can Chew: This maxim needs to be remembered constantly. We often tend to take more responsibilities than we are capable of carrying out. This is done to satisfy our ego. Know your limitations. . Why take on additional loads that may create more worries? You cannot gain peace of mind by expanding your external activities. Reduce your material engagements and spend time in prayer, introspection and meditation. This will reduce those thoughts in your mind that make you restless. 
 Uncluttered mind will produce greater peace of mind. 

8. Meditate Regularly: Meditation calms the mind and gets rid of disturbing thoughts. This is the highest state of peace of mind. Try and experience it yourself. If you meditate earnestly for half an hour everyday, your mind will tend to become peaceful during the remaining twenty-three and half-hours. Your mind will not be easily disturbed as it was before. You would benefit by gradually increasing the period of daily meditation. You may think that this will interfere with your daily work. On the contrary, this will increase your efficiency and you will be able to produce better results in less time. 

9. Never Leave The Mind Vacant: An empty mind is the devil's workshop. All evil actions start in the vacant mind. Keep your mind occupied in something positive, something worthwhile. Actively follow a hobby. Do something that holds your interest. You must decide what you value more: money or peace of mind. Your hobby, like social work or religious work, may not always earn you more money, but you will have a sense of fulfillment and achievement. Even when you are resting physically, occupy yourself in healthy reading or mental chanting of God's name. 

 10. Do Not Procrastinate and Never Regret: Do not waste time in protracted wondering " Should I or shouldn't I?" Days, weeks, months, and years may be wasted in that futile mental debating. You can never plan enough because you can never anticipate all future happenings. Value your time and do the things that need to be done. It does not matter if you fail the first time. You can learn from your mistakes and succeed the next time. Sitting back and worrying will lead to nothing. Learn from your mistakes, but do not brood over the past. DO NOT REGRET. Whatever happened was destined to happen only that way. 
 Why cry over spilt milk?


  1. Thanks for the article ..will definitely follow these golden rules:)

  2. Great principles, must endeavor to follow at least some of them.

  3. very nice article, thanks for sharing.
    My personal experiences for this "Never Leave The Mind Vacant"-- also read a lot of history because history will give us an idea of why a society was formed liked the way it is. I am reading quite a bit of history ranging from Indian to European. This is indeed helping me.

  4. wow this is best of all i hv ever read.........

  5. Nowadays I have been doing nothing useful. I guess I should start with developing an hobby other than writing that keeps my mind occupied whenever I am not writing. Meditating doesn't sound bad either. And thanks for sharing this post! I re-realised my mistakes.

  6. I couldn't agree more with you Paritala. You have brought up some very nice points here.

    In my opinion, people lose peace of mind by littering their mind themselves with unwanted business. And, your points here will help a lot!


  7. You are a very wise man. This is good advice. Blessings from Australia

  8. Good points. Does make sense.

  9. Very wise quote and if we follow them, it will surely change our lives.

  10. Amazing! Worth following:)

  11. Hi Sir, Great work!!!
    I have heard my father's words from yo.
    Thank you!! :)

  12. These sound very good.
    But, arent these meant for those living in SATYUG?

  13. Very good points Ayyangar sir! and very simply put too. thanks!

  14. Superb lines Sir..
    Thank you so much for sharing this article :)

  15. Thanks for sharing the middle path, now i have to follow Buddha.......most of the suggestions are close the Lord.

  16. Nice article though I do not agree with some of these...
    Do Not Procrastinate and Never Regret://Procastination is needed to arrive at the right conclusion and regret is required so that we FEEL we are wrong and do not repeat..

    Individual's perception :)

  17. Simple things to live a great life... Wonderful Post Sir :)

    Krazy Memoirs

  18. 10 commandments for happy, peaceful living.

  19. I have always procrastinated visiting your blog because I wanted to surf here when I had lots of time to check out everything... finally today here I come and read your points. LOL.
    Quite wise words ...

  20. What a gem of a post!. I am sure that if one puts these into practice they will reap huge benefits!

    sajeev kumar menon

  21. I like the 10 principles, I only disagree with “If you are destined to be rich, nothing in the world can stop you. If you are not so destined, no one can help you either,” cause I believe that you are the creator of your own destiny. If you want to be rich you have to work for it. A failure in business doesn’t mean that a person isn’t destined to be rich; the most successful people in this world had the most failures also, but they got up and persisted until they got what they wanted. For example, look at the successful stars like Shah Rukh Khan, Salman Khan & Amitab Bachan; even though they are very successful, they continue to give very big flops also. If you started a business several years ago and you are not as successful as your neighbor, whose business is only one year old, it only means that you are using the wrong strategies for your business. The problem can also lie within you; sometimes changing your attitude can make a huge difference in getting more clients. Take Akshay Kumar for example, his changed attitude is what made him a big star.

  22. Destined is very string misleading word.Actions make future. Human nature is to think,evaluate worry. To challenge it will only make it more difficult. It is not easy to start forgetting and meditate.Healthy Competition makes life worth living.